This site is by a lady, for ladies. Because it’s time we get our game on. Comments? Questions? Send them in, and we’ll take care of ya.
Pickup Techniques for the Lady PUA
This site is by a lady, for ladies. Because it’s time we get our game on. Comments? Questions? Send them in, and we’ll take care of ya.
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I would preferr a forum. What can I say I like to give advice.
Venus, just wanted to let you know that for the past couple of weeks I have tried the smiling thing, and I am so shocked at the results! People are considerably more friendly, not to mention the amount of doors I’ve had held open for me by men. etc. Also, I work with all men as a production control manager and was having a difficult time getting things done that needed to happen, but since I have made an effort to adopt a much happier air about myself it has turned around completely. These guys are all about pleasing me by getting jobs done faster! Love it!
Now, if I could just take that confidence with me when I go out tonight….
I know that it has been a while since I have been on here. Thank you, Tamara for the back up, there. I often wonder if people who read this think that I am just blowing smoke up their a$$. I am constantly in a PUA blogg trying to help out some poor AFC. Another thing I would like to let the ladies know that if you are going out to do field work (sarging) you have to make sure that you are more delicate about your approach. You can be ALFA, but in that situation, you must always know that men instinctually want to be the leader. Do not stay and talk to a man that is not interested. This makes you look pathetic, like you have low self worth, some men know how to smell out a lady with low self esteem. Some men use that to their advantage, to lock in on a (FB), with no potential for a relationship. Even if you are not looking to lock a man down to a relationship, you want him to think of you as higher status than a (FB). This is how you get him to play him for the long term. You always want a man to think that after the first initial convo that he is leading you into his (Love Trap)
I’m reading “the game” right now and have become a little obsessed with the PUA community….all these men training themselves to pick up women. I just wonder if similar community exists for women. Here I am now.
Hi Venus, really LOVE the phone trick…i can see myself doing that, too (coz i’m always fumbling, looking for my phone in my purse)….I’m confident and big-framed (and guys here mistakes that as “unapproachable”)….that’s why i need to get some “help” from FPUAs….Keep it going!
I just wanted to let you know that the books written for men and gaming, are different then the approaches you should take when your gaming as a woman. Remember we are the fairer sex, not visa/versa. Meaning that approach has to be quite a bit more feminine in comparison, you cannot take the masculine route. All those books written for men will teach you, is the way you should approach females, not how females should approach males. And, in fact woman shouldn’t be the ones to approach in the first place. Make eye contact and smile, if he doesn’t approach you he was,
A. Not all that interested in you.
B. Too scared to approach in fear of rejection.
no other choices, those are it.
Now you can nonchalantly bump into him, but my largest suggestion too women is let the man approach. I mean well of course unless you see serious IOI’s, then, and only then approach him. Or when you first walk into a joint, just make polite convo. Never do what the male P/U artist books say because you girls are not trying to pick up women, your trying to be the one that the man feels like he is picking. Peace
Hi! I thought I share some very interesting information with you. I did something at a party 1 year ago. A friend of mine was having a party in the middle of nowhere. Anyway, I brought a friend of mine to join me. We really like to dance, so we were rocking the dancefloor as always. I noticed this guy staring at me while I was dancing. He was just sitting all alone, and staring a lot. He was a bit cute too. What happened you might ask=? I walked right to him and said: “Hi, why are you sitting here all alone?” where are your friends? he said something that they were outside and stuff so I said: I noticed that you were staring at me on the dancefloor…..He didn’t deny it.. After, I asked him to come and join me and my friends and sit with us.. The guy was so happy…
I tell you something. Nothing is easier than approaching a guy when he is alone. Do it! Just say Hi! He will be so grateful….The night ended with him wanting me, kissing me and yes ask for my number…..
Another thing I would like to share. Its important so listen up girls. Guys have actually their own body-language between them that we need to be aware off. Have you ever noticed when you go out and sitting with a guy…some other guy passes by and just like point and smile to the guy. You see this a million times. It happens all the time. I thought it ment like a hello….because he knows him or something. That not true at all. I was completely wrong. Most of the time when guys do this to other guys they don’t even know who they are. What this really means is this:
They don’t even point at the guy. They point at the girl sitting next to the guy…and it means like: good catch…..a hint that he has a beautiful girl there sitting next to him…..
hi i’m an expert female pick up artist at 51 i discovered i could pick up just about anybody i wanted wish i knew i could do it when i was younger. i just talk to people plus i know a lot of things being well educated and travelled. plus i’m pretty good on the eyes i still get wolf whistles so must be
You’re good Venus. I’m impressed.
Hi Venus. Love your take on PAU. I discovered PAU about 2 days ago and have been absolutely fascinated but not surprised by it. To be honest it’s not a new concept to me however, I never really saw it as an art and seeing it in this light has really changed my perspective on things.
I am a natural PAU. I do it all the time without realising. But, unfortunately I am very susceptible to onitis because I can be very impatient. I’m aware of this flaw now and will certainly be working on it. I really like your idea of increasing my numbers to the point that I am too distracted to care.
But, still, here it my concern right… About a month ago I met a super fantastic guy. I was honestly not interested since I had just come out of a loveless relationship of 3 years and had pretty much decided that I was going to wait for Mr. Right to find me. To say that this guy liked me and wanted to date me was definitly not an overstatement. I however, honestly was not interested since he was was too average-looking for me. But, I decided that a little fun could never hurt and we ended up hooking up. Actually, I’d never done anything like this before and I was so bloody nervous the first time that it ended up being really shit. Anyways, he kept contact and then about a week later we hooked up again and it was average. I was confused and started sinking into onitis which made me extremely impatient. Then to cut a very long story short we hooked up a third time and it was great. But by this point in the thing we had going I had full blown onitis and as much as I tried to play cool he had picked up on it. Now, we have a strained friendship. He’s not ignoring me but he’s definitely lost interest.
So here’s what I’m getting at Venus. I want to know – if we women control the game right – how do I undo the damage? I know it can be done. I know he is not totally disinterested – only put-off. And there’s a difference. The thing is, like most girls I think, I cannot stand the idea that I have lost. I want to get this guy wrapped around my finger again so that I can take control again. I’ve totally backed off. Have been thinking of leaving it for a couple of months and then accidentally bumping into him one evening after which I will employ my newly refined PUA skills on him. It just really gets to me that I wasn’t my usual PUA-self with this guy from the start. And now I’m looking to prove to myself that no guy in unobtainable.
I think I should also just add that I am not interested in sleeping with this guy again. It was a new adventure which was awesome but it’s not how I roll. I simply want to have him interested again. Thanks
Im bi female who want to learn how to pick both male and females. I have in the past, little problem attracting admired attraction, but now recently divorce and am a bit older I want to challenge technics of a female P U A .
I’ve recently stumbled across VH1s PUA show and I was seeing if there were tips for us ladies out here and I found you! I’ve read each and every comment on here and I’m already learning a lot.
I have a bit of a confidence problem, and a onenitis problem. I’ve been really really really feeling this one guy for 7 months now and when we first met I really didn’t have too much interest in him, and he had been showing interest in me.. and then the tables turned. I feel as soon as I found interest in him he had given up. Poor timing?
We started hanging out more one on one, but my insecurities always took over. A girl friend of mine on multiple occasions has told me that he thinks I’m beautiful and that he told her all the time.
I started trying to pick up my game by being more outgoing and smiling and it seemed to start working, but I hadn’t reached my full potential when an ex of his came back into the picture and SHE HAD HIM UNDER A SPELL. I was definitely jealous and here I am now I’ve been stuck in this rut with trying to gain his interest back, and seeing him resort to trying to make old relationships work on multiple occasions, with horrible failing results.
He actually ended up becoming one of my roommates before she came back into the picture.
We hooked up one night after a bunch of us went out to the club, after he had quickly lost interest in said ex again… this being after knowing each other and living in the same house for 3 months. As soon as I start to get my groove back again… ANOTHER ex comes into the picture, with me being tossed aside.
He moved away for a few months after he and “ex number 2″ went through a violent break up.. and he came back here in September.
Things started escalating, we hooked up some more.. but now I feel like I’m stuck in a FB stage, even though we’d be spending time with each other on a multiple day a week basis, and lately have had quite a few “dateish” moments.. but now he’s falling under the “ex spell” again, and I’m left feeling like a side girl.
I’m definitely not planning on calling him.. but I just don’t know what I should do to benefit from my situation. I feel like I haven’t been able to be given an honest chance with him and I’m not sure how to spark that chase…
Venus you’re amazing can you help me!?
I’ve recently stumbled across VH1s PUA show and I was seeing if there were tips for us ladies out here and I found you! I’ve read each and every comment on here and I’m already learning a lot.
I have a bit of a confidence problem, and a onenitis problem. I’ve been really really really feeling this one guy for 7 months now and when we first met I really didn’t have too much interest in him, and he had been showing interest in me.. and then the tables turned. I feel as soon as I found interest in him he had given up. Poor timing?
We started hanging out more one on one, but my insecurities always took over. A girl friend of mine on multiple occasions has told me that he thinks I’m beautiful and that he told her all the time.
I started trying to pick up my game by being more outgoing and smiling and it seemed to start working, but I hadn’t reached my full potential when an ex of his came back into the picture and SHE HAD HIM UNDER A SPELL. I was definitely jealous and here I am now I’ve been stuck in this rut with trying to gain his interest back, and seeing him resort to trying to make old relationships work on multiple occasions, with horrible failing results.
He actually ended up becoming one of my roommates before she came back into the picture.
We hooked up one night after a bunch of us went out to the club, after he had quickly lost interest in said ex again… this being after knowing each other and living in the same house for 3 months. As soon as I start to get my groove back again… ANOTHER ex comes into the picture, with me being tossed aside.
He moved away for a few months after he and “ex number 2″ went through a violent break up.. and he came back here in September.
Things started escalating, we hooked up some more.. but now I feel like I’m stuck in a FB stage, even though we’d be spending time with each other on a multiple day a week basis, and lately have had quite a few “dateish” moments.. but now he’s falling under the “ex spell” again, and I’m left feeling like a side girl.
I’m definitely not planning on calling him.. but I just don’t know what I should do to benefit from my situation. I feel like I haven’t been able to be given an honest chance with him and I’m not sure how to spark that chase…
Venus you’re amazing can you help me!?
venus,
thanks for all of your advice. just read the game and have been searching for advice for female PUAs. my question – is there anything a female PUA can do about a HB that she has turned into a friend instead of picking them up or even FB? i am not shy but my problem seems to be when i approach men they take it as a friend and not sexual. thanks!
venus. youre the shit
KR, im actually in the same situation. except i think hes gorgeous.
and i have the problem of, when i go places, the guy is always too afraid to approach. we’ll make constant flirty eye contact, but no one ever approaches the other. how could i go from there?
Okay, so I’ve just heard about the book the game from a guy I unintentionally hit on this weekend (supposedly I pulled off something that was in the book & he & his friend thought I knew all about it— leading him to call me & ask me out) …. therefore I of course had to know exactly what he was talking about.
Which lead me here; I’m fascinated by this world & all of the words that people have associated with it. Like KR this idea isn’t new to me but the fact that there is a label for it I see the whole process in a new light. I think its great that women are taking control of “the game” so to speak & hope to learn more + I really do believe in the smile thing…all it takes is a smile & guys take notice
Just wanted to say this website is fantastic. Im just out of a long term relationship and my friend told me about PUA as I have no clue how to meet new guys. The ones I know have been going round in the same cirlcles for years and I dont know how to attract new stock.
Keep it going!!!
is there a female PUA here in manila, phil? hit me back!
So happy to meet fPUAs! Are there any girls from SEATTLE that want to meet and go sarging? I think this is awesome I was introduced to the community over a year ago and I think it did help me learn to be more confident and increasing less afraid of approaching men. I currrently have my first boyfriend ever and he is a sweety but I’ve resently started to wonder if “he’s not that into me!” I’m super nice and while I totally DHV’d in the beginning I think I’ve started to DLV. He’s a really good guy but I want him to stay as into me as he seemed to be the first month when he dressed up and tried to impress me. I know I have grown enough to get a guy I choose but how to I keep things on the right track?
p.s. while I’m not looking for another man…i love the community and would love to be someones winggirl and keep my skills sharp, because your right it does help you in all areas of your life
This is great – where is the female PUA community?! We need one…
I’m really keen on building up communities of women to discuss, practice, develop and master the art of pick up. Any ideas on how to get physical network set up??
Oh and I know Neil Strauss too…could come in handy : ) xxx
I noticed the last post was back in Dec 2008….is it worth me leaving a comment? This site may be old, but Venus is a legend and I’m sure even more so by now.
Hi, I was wondering if this site is still in progress? I read through all the comments and am definitely interested in the art of being a FPUA!
Hello KR,
Here is some male perspective.
I’ve had some experience in the PUA community, I believe there are lots of good intentions but you’ll soon find out that most PUAs are full of sh*t. You will understand.
Now to your case… Wrapping a guy around your finger will not add anything to your life for two reasons
1) If you are not interested it will just be wasted energy. You can use that time and energy to make yourself happy, develop yourself so that you will naturally become more atractive.
You will gain much more that way.
2) If you are interested you will probably loose interest after some time. Nobody wants a partner that is always all over us.
You see, to be honest trying to “get” every guy or girl is not only not going to work out but also it will take out the enjoyment of interacting with people.
Be careful not to become too calculated in what you do or say.
One thing I have noticed, (and I did this myself) is that both male and female PUAs try to use techniques to cover up their flaws( real or imagined). Instead of actually improving where they need to or simply having more belief in themselves.
Yes it is a good to thing to try and understand the opposite sex better. However to be more attractive what you really need to do is to get to know yourself better, love yourself more and just do things that make you happy.
As much as attraction is very important there is more to relationships than that. You may want to try learning to focus more on the other person. I do not mean forget yourself but you’ll be surprised about how much more you’ll achieve in people when you take an active interest in them.
KR, you do not need to get every guy. This is not a war of the sexes even though a lot of advice on this blog and all over the PUA community seems to say otherwise.
Really, search your soul, find out what you want out of this life and go for it. All the best!
we lady i am quite inspired by your article, and my advice to you (as a pua) is to get out there and share yourself to the world>> i didnt believe the fpua thing, but its facinating. besides give a guy a break, we’ve been doing the approaching for thousands of year now… girls, ITS YOUR TURN!!!
Hey there lady’s long time no talk….. Blue fire gave you some good advice KR, I would take it if I were you. You heard the old saying no use crying over spilled milk. Not only that but if your gaming correctly you would have no time to think of a man from the past. Drop him and your thoughts about him, like a ten ton brick, move on to someone maybe more interesting, better looking. We as women limit ourselves by what we think we deserve. This is caused by low self esteem, and the nature of the female. Remember if he is not interested in you, he is not worth having. I have decided myself to make my persuit into the male origin boundless. I want everyone of you girls that I am helping to do something for me. Start thinking, never mind scratch that, start knowing that you are beautiful. Remember the more you like yourself, it will show to those around you. It will show in your walk, your talk, your dress. We as females can’t use goofy magic tricks, card games or any of the such to pick up a man. What we can do is refine our personality. This means you have to take the time to get to know yourself, know what you like, and don’t like. Men take interest in interesting ideas being conveyed. I love to talk and have an opinion about everything. Most of my opinions are not just opinions but convictions. For instance I cannot not stand Sponge bob square pants, because I believe that it allows idocracy to be the norm for our future generations. I means seriously it’s main character has a dream job of being a fry cook at the crusty crab. See although you may disagree with the comment stated above, now I have your interest. When your interest is involved, you probably will converse. Same with men. Even if it is just to argue a point with me , I will still get to converse with said (HB). Now my job is to turn it into a (PU) while in conversation of his counterpoint in argument I will innocently blurt out your hot. But see how even knowing yourself can open the door to a (PU). Of course you should do this in the hearing vicinity of said (HB). If one doesn’t work another should. Just some advise Lady’s .
Sam,
All I can say is read his body language. Get back to me. I need more information about your friendship.
Hello Lady’s long time no talk. Yep! What can I say I have fallen into onenitis. Doesn’t seem to bother me though. Hope it doesn’t ruin my credibility with any of you women. Remember that it is okay to settle down with that one gentleman that is worth your time. In fact I hope that the reason that you lady’s are in here isso that you may eventually do so. I think increasing your numbers is good because it actually can lead to some really good times, some really good friends and even potentially your spouse.
KR
There is the potential of a man losing interest. Especially when you become a life sucking parasite. I know that sounds a bit harsh, but that is exactly what a man is thinking when you have lost interest in everything but him. Remember lady’s if you settle into onenitis a man expects you to act the same as you had previous to the onset of said onenitis. Getting freaky and controlling is not allowed. Absolutely not allowed. Make him do the work, even if you are wishing he would call, and thinking about him every five seconds. Remember lady’s you always should leave him wanting more, this means you don’t ask him to come over, and you shouldn’t push for anything he hasn’t suggested, always get off of the phone first seeming as if you are rushed for time. These things work in keeping a guy interested. KR you have made several mistakes and sounds like you have onenitis for a man who has lost interest in you. It is a lost cause. When a man finds you controlling, he will remember that.
Niki…… Niki…………. Niki…………………
You are being played like a slide guitar. Oh my what can I say to you. I feel for you. You have demonstrated lower social value, by letting him come back to you. He is not taking you out. He is dropping you everytime another woman comes in the picture. You are his FB. Sorry to be the one to tell you. You can switch this around though, there is hope. The next time he tries to come back to you just say no, very short, very sweetly tell him your no longer interested in him. You must learn how to demonstrate HSV. If he is interested he will call you within the end of the week to ask you out. Make sure that you tell him your busy for the first option he offers you. If he tries for another time he is worth going out with. If he doesn’t offer another time either in that convo or another call convo, shake him off.
Sam,
You need to find out if he is sending out any IOI’s inform me of your latest meeting with said HB.
Hey everyone!
I am from Chile (very chauvinist country) and when i said HEY! I wanna be a PUA, i was told I cant cause I am a girl…I am just starting to know this PUA thing but I am willing to create a revolution in a really old fashioned country like mine….I would appreciate your help.
All the best!!
Paulina.
hello everyone. ever since reading the book The Game i have come across this website and am wondering if its still in progress. if it is, then help is needed on this end.
thanks!!
well Maria what do you need help with?
I am very happy with this website and learning that there are female PUAs I actually dated a male PUA and thats how I learned about the community. I really do think learning the social dynamics and just establishing yourself as confident and going for what you want is increasing your value.
I am very social but around guys I am interested in I tend to get shy and nervous because for some time I have become used to being approached but now it is my turn. Thank you all for the advice and I hope to learn and change for the better!!
Venus I love your advice!!
Poor Maria… allow me to tell you that seduction has nothing to do with geographical location, religion, or ethnicity….. It’s all about CHARECTER!!!
I’ve been invloved in the game b4 even knowing “the game” but i have developed my own set of rules and systems, and by the way i advise you ladies to keep on PLAYING with your preys or tagets or whatever you may call them for as long as you can. It’s all about the dimension of time, and PATIENCE is a key….
In addition to that i don’t believe in FPUA or male PUAs … you can enhance your learning through a male friend who can team up as a counsler offering advise, Always vary your options and try to team up with a mate at the beginning of practice to secure a good source for feedback.
As for Picking Up the tricks vary a lot, but i found the most effective is the Game of ” ILLUSIONS” , where the prey believes that he’s the one who initiated everything!
Hey ladies this is sweet.
Someone was seeking a female pickup artist — not sure if that got settled.. don’t have time to read all the posts. I recommend Kimberly Ellington — she’s been around for a long ass time and she knows her sh*t. She teaches both men and women.. so check her out.
Looking forward to see how this thing unravels.. it maybe good insight for men too
Rogan
Best of luck ladies, it would sure be fun to sarge with one of you. Anyone from Serbia here?
Awesome idea, the FPUAs…just needs a little push, ladies our game it’s ten times more indirect..
From Latinoamerica with love!
Hey guys I’ve just broken up with my bf after 3 years and decided to get back to my 16-year-old self and play the game is anyone from London around to go for a little sarg
I dont know why but it feels kind of weird hearing women talking about sarging. It makes me as a man feel like a prey. Hahaha …
Well the last thing a female pick up artist wants to do is make any man feel as if they are the prey. Sarging for a female pua is very touchy. Making any man feel as if he is actually being picked up, is unnessicary and can actually scare the man away. I like to make my targets feel as if they are choosing me. Not visa/versa. I really would like to hear from some of you females in here, I am always up to giving advise. I actually miss those days of people asking me questions. I will talk with you all later.
Peace
Panic! I have read books and watched shows on PUArtistry – I should have known better – but I completely got picked up at a bar last month. He’s a great guy – we have a great connection. The problem is that I know I slept with him too soon and I can’t tell if he is dating other women – I am assuming that he is. We see each other 1-2 nights a week and they are always magical. Anyways, I feel like I am falling for him and he totally has all the power. Is it too late? Did I fuck up by sleeping with him? Or do I still have hope? HELP!
Hello, i’m a GUY.
I know so-so about Pua – but i think mostly it’s all tricks. These tricks show women sides of your
personality and get them further interested into your personality. Which in most cases is awsome. But it’s different for women.
Now im here – mind boggled. WHY – Do women need to pickup? Seriously wtf? Tell me. All you
need to do is look good, be confident and dont take ‘ the game’ to far. If ur not being a btch that’d
be great. Im not saying this will bring u a boyfriend. but it should help.
If you want sex, and JUST sex. Just fcking say so – Really do you think guys will mind this?
COME ON…
Im out, if you have any questions shoot them towards Akkifox@gmail.com – Seeing as im a guy
that doesnt mind helping people out i’d be an ok source for information as far as the typical
guy mind. I’ll check back on this blog comment page.
Kind regards,
Fox
Hi. I’m a guy who is involved in the pu community. Your site is very interesting, glad to see it! I’m interested in talking to a female pua or two, getting their perspective on things, and to share notes, help each other out with attracting the opposite sex. I prefer to talk to women are very good at this, as I am always looking to improve my game with women, and give back by helping women out on this. Drop me line. Also, if u live in Northern Virginia area, if you want to get together and compare notes, we can discuss that too. Steve
Hey ladies this is sweet.
Someone was seeking a female pickup artist — not sure if that got settled.. don’t have time to read all the posts. I recommend Kimberly Ellington — she’s been around for a long ass time and she knows her sh*t. She teaches both men and women.. so check her out.
Looking forward to see how this thing unravels.. it maybe good insight for men too
Rogan
Hi. I’m a guy who is involved in the pu community. Your site is very interesting, glad to see it! I’m interested in talking to a female pua or two, getting their perspective on things, and to share notes, help each other out with attracting the opposite sex. I prefer to talk to women are very good at this, as I am always looking to improve my game with women, and give back by helping women out on this. Drop me line. Also, if u live in Northern Virginia area, if you want to get together and compare notes, we can discuss that too. Steve
Hello, i’m a GUY.
I know so-so about Pua – but i think mostly it’s all tricks. These tricks show women sides of your
personality and get them further interested into your personality. Which in most cases is awsome. But it’s different for women.
Now im here – mind boggled. WHY – Do women need to pickup? Seriously wtf? Tell me. All you
need to do is look good, be confident and dont take ‘ the game’ to far. If ur not being a btch that’d
be great. Im not saying this will bring u a boyfriend. but it should help.
If you want sex, and JUST sex. Just fcking say so – Really do you think guys will mind this?
COME ON…
Im out, if you have any questions shoot them towards Akkifox@gmail.com – Seeing as im a guy
that doesnt mind helping people out i’d be an ok source for information as far as the typical
guy mind. I’ll check back on this blog comment page.
Kind regards,
Fox
I dont know why but it feels kind of weird hearing women talking about sarging. It makes me as a man feel like a prey. Hahaha …
Venus, are you a psychology major or something? I mean seriously, reading your advices, I actually thought that you knew me as a man better than I know myself. LOL
I think when one day they start offering Men’s Studies classes, you should apply for the job. Haha.
Awesome idea, the FPUAs…just needs a little push, ladies our game it’s ten times more indirect..
From Latinoamerica with love!
Hello! i’ve just found this and it is the simplest smartest and bestest article on the subject. I too have just suddenly found the word PUA and am suddenly thrown into a new world…I’ve been so neive, i knew it existed…but seminars and videos and websites??? Well i’m 37, and am told still very attractive, but still older than all my friends. (problem no.1!) but I also have a fear of men since being hurt so badly, having been such a twat in the past. That’s all over now, behind me, but I can tell I give off sharp blades of vibes when trying to just be friendly to a male! I’m working on it, I guess there’s no quick cure. Meanwhile reading this has really helped and I think I’m halfway there…I’m good at chatting and being friendly but not too nicey nicey like I used to be, cheeky and funny… but when I get that far, they smile and ask a question and I’ll hide as best I can that I’ve had enough fun now and I want to go home!! bad isn’t it?! I just wonder how I can physically break just one more little barrier…I don’t want to jump into bed with guys now, but I do want them to just find me sexy that’s all…I’m not so good at feeling sexy…hmmph. Thanks for the article and I really want this FPUA forum!!!! x
Isla,
The point is to feel comfortable in your own skin. I have found one thing that makes me feel sexy all of the time. Question yourself on the type of underwear you wear most often. There is nothing less sexy then granny panties and an old grandma brazierre. I mean if you are wearing these things you might as well throw on a nun habit, and call it a day. Go out and buy some really pretty girly matching braw and underwear sets. Wear them when you feel the least attractive. When you are in this slumpish mood you will remember that you are sexy underneath your clothing, this is no matter how anyone else views you.
I also want you to remember that humans are less involved in others then they are themselves. What I mean is that, people always seem to judge themselves on what they think others may think of them. Believe me, we as humans are way more SELF involved. In their free time, I would have to say that ninety percent of the populace is going about thinking about what others are thinking of them. This means that they have barely anytime to pass judgement on someone outside of themselves. So stop viewing yourself in third party. Start being more selfish, make yourself happy.
I’d love to pick your brain! I’ve recently become very interested in teaching women the techniques of pick up and I really do believe that many of the same techniques apply to women as they do men.
After teaching some girlfriends this sort of stuff, I’ve found that qualification and escalation will have most guys eating out of the palm of the female PUA’s hand :-p
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